Divorcations and Why They Matter.

30 minutes away or a plane ride, trips can help you heal.

When I was going through my divorce, I took a lot of trips in those first few months. Sometimes it was to a beach, yes, but sometimes it was just an extended stay at a friend's house out of state. You could say I was running away from my problems, but I prefer to think of it as a change of scenery that not only allowed for some physical distance the location of the heartbreak, but also gave me new experiences that allowed the brain to make new connections.

Sunny Side Up comes out next week. In the book, our main character Sunny Greene grabs a few girlfriends and heads to the Bahamas on a proper Divorcation. Did I make that word up? Probably not.

Ok… i just googled it and it seems people use it to describe when two divorced parents go on vacay together with their kids, but I like my version better. In this context, let’s use it as when one or more newly divorced people get on a plane and head somewhere other than home to complain about exes, compare divorce notes and figure out what the next chapter will bring.

Back in 2016 when I was on my multi-city divorcation tour, I was lucky enough to have one other girlfriend going through the same thing, on the same timeline. No kids. Roughly same time spent with the exes. And it was a true lifeline for me. I remember there were times when I couldn’t talk to friends who were happy in their lives. I needed someone who could be in the dark with me and understand the unfairness and how it felt to stare into the vastness of what was next.

No, you cannot outrun your problems, you have to deal with them. As they say, the only way out is through. But if you find yourself in the middle of a rough time, get out of your space and your routine and let some new energy in. It doesnt need to be fancy. It just needs to be different.

If you’re not able to travel, you can take a divorcation at home. Go to a neighborhood that is different from yours. Wear an outfit you may not otherwise wear. Bring your book. Try eating alone and enjoying your own company. Or bring a friend. Have a night out. Whatever this looks like to you, you can do it close to home too.

I’m looking forward to you all meeting Sunny soon.

xo

Katie